Whether it was six months of dating or a marriage spanning decades, breakups are almost always difficult for everyone involved. You spent a lot of time, energy and emotional resources forging a relationship with another person, but now all you created together is firmly in the past. Instead of focusing on the life you once had with your ex, create a new life for yourself, one that fulfills your personal and social needs in a way that your broken relationship no longer can.
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Allow yourself time to adequately grieve for your lost relationship. While you want to move on and get a new life post-breakup, you'll have a better chance of finding happiness in your new life if you don't leave lingering issues unattended. Remember that emotions such as denial, anger, guilt and sadness are normal, but try not to dwell on negative feelings for too long.
2Seek out your best, most supportive family members and friends. They'll help you get through the messy emotional stuff that immediately follows a breakup. Once you've completed your grieving process, ask them to include you on social outings. Getting back into the swing of things socially will distract you from dwelling on your grief and will give you the opportunity to seek out new friends.
3Take care of yourself. Even if you're depressed, keep up with the necessities of day-to-day living: regular grooming, housekeeping and steady job performance will bolster your self-esteem and give you the courage to succeed in your new life.
4Purchase a post-relationship totem. The advice book "It's a Breakup Not a Breakdown" by Lisa Steadman recommends buying something for yourself, if you have the income. Whether the object is practical or fanciful, you can use it as a symbol of your new life as well as a sign that you can now actualize your own wants and needs. For a small but regular emotional boost, put it in a place where you will use it or see it frequently.
5Take up a new hobby. If there's a sport you've wanted to try, join a casual adult league. If you've always been curious about knitting, find a local knitting group. A new hobby helps you redefine your post-breakup self, distracts you from heartache and introduces you to new people. If you're able to join a hobby-related group, you'll also have a weekly or biweekly engagement to look forward to during rough times.
6Accept dates when you feel ready. The advice book "After Your Divorce: Creating the Good Life on Your Own" by Cynthia MacGregor and Robert E. Alberti suggests that the right time for dating is whenever the idea of going out with a new person is more exciting than it is scary. Use the lessons you learned from your broken relationship to improve your chances at happiness with new potential mates.
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