Commitment Phobia Warning Signs

Commitment phobia is fairly common among singles who think they want a long-term relationship, but just can't seem to make the right connection. Fear of commitment may be caused by a number of stimuli including failed past relationships, misplaced trust or dysfunctional early family life. Learn the warning signs to recognize it in others--or in yourself.

Man Overboard

The first sign of commitment phobia is overcommitment. Those early days in the relationship when he goes overboard can be very seductive. He may even seem like your dream guy...for a while. If it's moving way too fast at first, that's your first clue. He will often come across as sincere because he is. He really believes he wants a relationship.

Dangerous Waters

When it's time to take your relationship to the next level by planning a trip together, talking about exclusive dating or even meeting your parents, you may begin to see some wavering. This kind of thing goes beyond lip-service commitment and sails into the dangerous waters of actual commitment, which will make the commitment-phobe very nervous.

On the Outside Looking in

Later in the relationship, you may find yourself on the outside. She just doesn't have enough time for you because her life is so terribly busy for an extended period of time. The bottom line is that you aren't high on her list of priorities, and she's never going to have time for you.

Short, but Fiery

People who have commitment phobia usually have a long string of short relationships. They run very hot at first and cool off very fast. They have a lot of friends and social commitments that don't include you, or they consistently choose work over you, even if the work isn't crucial. Backing out of dates at the last minute is an inconsiderate indication that the relationship isn't going to go anywhere. Once in a while may be inevitable. Often is a pattern.

What if the Commitment Phobe is You?

Think about your past relationships. Did you partner seem perfect at first, but then some trivial thing came between you every time? Jerry's relationships on the Jerry Seinfeld show are classic examples. No matter how wonderful the girl, there was always something wrong with her. One had "man hands," one wore the same dress on every date, and one had a terrible laugh. These things grew in significance until poor Jerry couldn't take it anymore. If you allow trivial things to break up every relationship, you might be commitment phobic.

Off-Limits

Dating men who should be off-limits can be another sign that you're not ready for a real relationship. If you're drawn to married men, you may be choosing them to avoid commitment. Flirting with other people is another sign of trouble. Flirting can be harmless, or it can be fishing for a replacement. It can be hard to tell the difference, even if you're the flirt.

The Right Stuff

If you have a commitment phobia, you might just be dating the wrong people. Make a list of things you want in a partner and be realistic. Narrow your dating choices to only those who have everything you're looking for. Then slow it down, and let the relationship develop naturally.

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Signs of a Relationship Breakup

Many relationships reach a point of discontent where one or both parties begin to wonder if the other is going to end things. It is hard to focus on everyday life when things have gotten so tough in your relationship that you wonder if it is going to last. When certain signs of a breakup begin to appear, it is time to talk to your significant other and see what can be done to patch things up.

Aversion

It may sound simple, but when someone is getting ready to initiate a breakup, the person is less likely to want to talk to you or be around you. Your significant other may seem to be avoiding personal encounters, phone calls, text messages and emails. If you are supposed to meet or talk, your partner might make an excuse to get out of it. This often happens when a person can't figure out how to start the breakup process.

Possessions

If you have been in your relationship for a long time, you may live with your significant other or at least have possessions at each other's residences. Right before a breakup, the person who is wanting to initiate the separation may begin getting their things out of the other person's residence so as to make it easier when cutting ties. Keep an eye out to see if your partner is slowly taking things out of your home.

Arguments

Most relationships that are getting ready to end feature a heavier volume of arguments prior to their end. The reason for this may be that you are both simply getting on each other's nerves and find more of what you each say and do annoying. Things you might not normally care about become big issues because you are always on edge and ready to strike. If you become afraid to say anything to your partner for fear of the response, a breakup may be on the way.

Affection

Prior to a breakup, all signs of affection begin to fall from previous levels. This applies not only to a couple's sex life but to smaller things. You may notice that the person you are with has stopped hugging or kissing you. Even slight touches and terms of endearment are becoming fewer and further in between. Your significant other may stop doing nice things for you throughout the day that they know you like.

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How to Date a Former Student

If you find yourself in a teaching, advising or mentoring position where you interact with students, you may experience a mutual attraction or form a bond with a student. Although this may be inevitable, you need to wait until you are no longer in a position of authority to pursue a possible relationship with this individual. If you want to date a former student, you should enter the situation carefully and think about whether or not the relationship is a positive decision for your life and the life of your former student.

Instructions

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Ensure that the individual you want to date is at least 18 years of age. If you are over 18 years of age and engage in sexual relations with a minor, you may have to register as a sex offender in your community and you may also have to go to prison. According to Avert, the age of consent does vary depending on your state and country of residence, so it is important that you know the law.

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Wait until the person in question is no longer your student. If possible, wait until the student no longer attends the institution where you are employed. Dating a student while you are in the employ of the school could result in termination, depending on the rules at your school.

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Consider your reputation and the potential damage that could occur from this relationship. If you are still a teacher, you may experience fallout from current students and their parents, so you need to decide if you can handle the criticism. If you feel comfortable sharing this relationship with your friends and family, and they are not concerned, you may be more comfortable moving forward with this dating situation.

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Communicate openly with the former student you wish to date and tell him or her how you feel about the situation. If you are open and honest, you will have a better chance of a successful relationship. Be prepared to listen to his or her feelings on the subject, and respect them at all times.

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How to Ask a Girl Out in Middle School Successfully

You like a girl and you want to ask her out. If you ask people how to do it, some will say "just do it". Actually, it is not that simple, particularly when you are in middle school. One reason is that most girls in middle school do not have much "going out" experience and they are easily freaked out. If you want to ask a girl out, you need a plan. Here I am going to show you how to ask a girl out in middle school successfully.

Instructions

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Get to know the girl you are interested in first. Do your best to become her friend or to have mutual friends with her. Give her a good first impression. Remember no girl wants to go out with some guy she doesn't like. Chat with her or her friends to find out whether she likes you and whether she already has a boyfriend. If she doesn't like you or is not available, don't bother asking her out because you will probably get rejected.

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Ask her out yourself. If you have decided to ask her out, you should do it personally. Don't ask or pay someone else do it for you because they may not keep secrets or they may make jokes about it later. Also you will show her that you are sincere when you ask her out by yourself. Doing it this way will get you a better chance of success.

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